Earlier this year I lost my job due to a redundancy, but I’ve gained a whole new mindset and skills to go along with my time of being unemployed. The secret? You need to train your mind to be positive. The job hunting process can be pretty scary, especially when you haven’t done it for a while. You’ve got to re-do your resume (and actually make it stand out), write amazing cover letters that show you’re qualified but still have a personality, continually job hunt for the right one (I was looking twice a day – gotta get in early!), be ready for phone interviews, prep for the actual interview, and then deal with rejection. Like please, who has time for that.
Yes, I had my fair share of rejections, and boy did it suck! I found jobs I really wanted, and employers were constantly getting my hopes up. My mind was going crazy after 3 months, and I was completely sick of the process. Job hunting is not all just about looking for a job, it’s also trying to deal with the emotions that come from looking for a job. I feel like I’ve been on an emotional rollercoaster, being so confident in my skills to land the job I so desperately wanted, and then being told, “we really love you, but we’ve gone with someone else”. It’s like having your hopes and dreams ripped from beneath you. You invest so much into the opportunity, the people, and the role. But whatever, everything happens for a reason right?!
I remember crying my eyes out after being told ‘no’, punching my pillow because I was so frustrated that I was getting all these interviews but wasn’t landing the job, thinking how could they not have gone with me? ME! It’s weird when you go through the application process, you sometimes forget there are other people being considered.
So, I’d buy myself a bottle of red wine (no, I would not drink it all in one night just FYI), and basically sleep for 12 hours because I was so upset. But you know what? The next day I’d wake up and I was fine. I was over it. I’d moved on. Those opportunities weren’t right for me, and even though you can’t see why right now, later down the track, you will. And you just have to remember that! But the rejection kept coming, and my mindset was being worn thin. I’d ask myself and Julia as well, how do you deal with job rejection over, and over, and over again?
Well…apart from the red wine, here is how I dealt with it. Just know you CAN train your mind to be positive.
How To Train Your Mind To Be Positive
I stayed positive 90% of the time. I’m being completely transparent in this article, and I’m not going to say I’ve been ‘happy go lucky’ for the past 3 months. The redundancy was bad enough and it took me a while to get over it. You can read my full story here on that one. I was heartbroken (no, not from a boy), stressed about money, worried about my future and my family, and had no direction.
But your mind is a powerful thing, and after a few weeks I realised I had no choice but to be positive, otherwise the experience of losing my job and everything that happened would completely tear me apart. So, I told myself every single day that this has happened for a reason, and I’m exactly where I’m meant to be right now. I was lucky to have this blog to put my energy into; I was getting out of the house and walking on the beach more; I was making more of an effort to catch up with friends and family. I was training my mind to be positive, to look at life differently, and trying to determine what I ultimately wanted.
And you know what?
The Worst Of Times Make You Resilient
I figured out that my ultimate goal is to own my own business doing something I love, helping people, and have lifestyle and financial freedom. And to share it with the people I love. That’s the dream. The thing is, I was so fixated on what I thought I wanted as a 9-5 career that in the end, it doesn’t play a big role in the big picture. I stressed myself out trying to find the ‘perfect’ job and I even turned down a job at EY! A company I had always wanted to work for and an opportunity that would have set me up for life. The jobs I thought I wanted, I didn’t get, and clearly it means I’m not meant to work there. I felt a little crazy and it played on my mind a bit by turning it down. But again, you just need to train your mind to be positive
Where Do you See Yourself In 5 Years?
One of the questions I hate being asked in job interviews is ‘Where do you see yourself in 5 years’. I never want to tell them, ‘well, I see myself traveling the world and owning my own business’, because I feel like it wouldn’t quite align with their goals as it implies I’m probably going to leave within 5 years. Given what has happened in my life, I have NO IDEA where I see myself in 5 years. My life has been so uncertain, and I still have no clue as to what I truly want as my 9-5 job right now, but I’m just going with what happens, as it’s never lead me astray before.
The Importance Of Managing Your Mindset
The point I’m trying to make is that in times when you feel uncertain, stressed, worried etc, your mindset plays such a crucial role in how you move forward and just…deal. You can’t let it consume you, otherwise it’ll take way more effort to swim back to the surface. So, if you can actually stay afloat long enough for the next boat to come, that’s the goal.
So, where am I now? As I write this, I have just accepted a job offer! Yes, the 3 months of waiting, of going crazy, getting frustrated, hoping, and being broke, has finally come to an end! No, it doesn’t pay as much as I would have liked, it’s not quite the industry I thought I’d be in, but that’s ok! It gives me a starting point again and something to work towards. I’ve found the light at the end of the tunnel, and it’s bloody bright.
What I’ve Learned About Money
Being unemployed, I’ve lived off my redundancy package for the last 3 months, and have spent the bare minimum. Yes, it’s been hard to cut back, but my money mindset has changed.
I no longer find a lot of value in buying endless amounts of clothes, or things I don’t truly need. I enjoy free activities like walking on the beach, going for hikes, and just spending time with people. I like working on the blog, creating content, writing articles, playing music in my spare time. I’ve learned you DON’T need to spend money all the time to be happy. You don’t need that new dress just because it’s on sale.
When I’m about to spend money, I really evaluate my decision, and whether or not my money is better spent elsewhere. We live in a society where we are bombarded with advertising, people encouraging us to spend, and buy things we don’t need. Things that only bring us a tiny bit of temporary happiness.
I’ll admit, I used to be that person, who would pretty much just buy things because I saw them. I didn’t really think a lot on where else my money could go. Don’t we all want lifestyle and financial freedom doing something we love? The only way you’re going to get that is if you’re smart with your money, and you hustle on the one thing that makes you happy. This is one of the reasons we started this blog. We KNOW that education about money and being money conscious can actually change your life, and we want more people to realise that.
If you agree with me, please share this with your friends, comment and let me know your thoughts. Whether you’ve gone through the same kind of thing, or perhaps you’ve learned to train your mind to be positive as well.
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