What will make you happy? Isn’t that the question we’ve been trying to answer our entire lives? What if we said you’re approaching this quest for happiness completely wrong? Now, we are no Dalai Lama but we do read a lot. We constantly reflect on our own lives and our quest for happiness. If you’ve read our blog lately, you’d start to realise that we’re going through a transition phase (on a personal level) and we’ve really opened up our minds to other possibilities. It’s called thinking outside the box.
Allow this article to serve a reminder to you that happiness itself is such a personal choice. With the right mindset you’ll be surprised at how you can change your attitude and hence your life.
Happiness Is Not A Destination
You’ll be happy WHEN you get that job.
You’ll be happy WHEN you move house.
You’ll be happy WHEN you graduate from uni.
Do you see a pattern? Can you relate yet?
We used to think like this and yes, what we’re about to point out is so simple but we can easily forget the most simplest of things when we’re on this rollercoaster called life. When you experience an achievement or success you get really happy, right? You’re completely elated and sometimes this happiness high can last for a while. Then when we come back down, we’re instantly looking for our next success story so we can feel that happiness high again. Happiness should not be a destination, so do not link your happiness to your successes.
How Do I Be Happy In The Present?
An excellent question! As we mentioned before, happiness is a very personal choice…and yes, you do have a choice. Complete this little exercise. Write down all the things that make you happy (not what WILL make you happy). It could be as simple as having a cup of tea or coffee or doing a facial at home. Now, write down everything that you THINK will make you happy. It could be landing a dream career, traveling, spending more time with your loved ones. We’ve supplied a simple pin-up worksheet with these questions (and of course a little inspirational quote). We want you to place this somewhere on your wall where you’ll see it everyday. The bathroom is always a great place. Just click the button below to download it!
If you’re one of those people who ties your happiness to your success, it’s time to shift your mindset. As humans, it’s natural for us to keep moving onwards and upwards. Once we’ve succeeded in a particular area, we set out on something new we want to achieve next. And the cycle keeps on going. If you continue to link your happiness to these milestones, the truth is you’re never going to be happy. Instead, you’ll experience moments of happiness as opposed to ever-lasting content.
How To Find Out What Will Make You Happy
This is not going to happen overnight but you can make small steps every day to answer this question for yourself. The answer will not come to you out of no where. You need to constantly jump out of your comfort zone, put yourself out there to people, and work on something you’re passionate about. If you need a little bit of a kick start, check out our article on ‘How To Quit the 9-5 and Shift Your Mindset’. In this article we spoke about practicing gratitude. Gratitude is such an important daily ritual to get into the habit of and will teach you to be happy and content in the present moment.
You Don’t Need Money To Be Happy
Ah yes, the age old statement of money doesn’t buy you happiness. And it’s totally true! Yes, if you have money you have more of a luxury to do things that you enjoy such as traveling. But think about this… If you had all the money in the word, an unlimited supply, what would you do with it? A lot of people would probably say travel the world and that’s exactly what we would do as well. But then what? You would probably look for your next challenge or something you would find fulfilment in. The point we’re trying to make is that you should be able to find happiness in the present, regardless of how much money you have and without linking it to your next success goal.
To sum up, these are the main points we want you to take away from this article:
- Don’t link your happiness to your success
- If you wait for something to happen, you’re waiting to be happy
- To be happy in the present, identify every little thing that makes you happy (even if it’s having a cup of coffee)
- Think about what could make you happy in the future (don’t be so specific though)
- Practice gratitude
- Realise that you don’t need to be rich to be happy
It’s ok to have bad days every now and then, but if you feel like you’re stuck in a rut, it’s time to shift your mindset. It doesn’t have to be complex, and it’s literally as simple as taking some time out for yourself and getting back to your roots. Along the way, life can change us, experiences change us and it’s important to stay true to ourselves – to stay happy.
So, grab a cup of tea, a Sunday evening, light a candle, play some relaxing music, print off our happiness pin-up worksheet and give yourself back to you. Just click on the button below.
Amanda & Julia